Reclaiming Relationship Safety After Narcissistic Harm Reclaiming a sense of safety in relationships after narcissistic harm is tender work. It is not about forcing yourself to trust again or pretending you are fine. It is about slowly teaching your body, heart, and spirit that they are no longer in danger, and that you are allowed to choose something softer and more honest now. Early February often shines a bright light on this. The holidays are over, the cold still lingers,

When Safety and Boundaries Feel Like Opposites Setting a boundary after narcissistic or toxic harm can feel like stepping into danger. Your mind might say, "I need to say no," while your whole body screams, "This is not safe." If you were punished, shamed, or ignored for having needs, of course limits feel wrong or selfish now. There is nothing broken about you for feeling this way. Your body learned that staying quiet, pleasing others, or shrinking yourself kept you safer. T